As much as we do know, we certainly can’t speak for every woman on the planet. For some women, sex is something that they couldn’t possibly live without and for others, it’s something they like but don’t actively seek out. If you are wondering what other things women prefer to making love, we thought we would create an article with some of the most popular methods of enjoying yourself without having sex, so here are a few things that we found by asking around and using our wisdom.
In general, women are by nature very talkative and empathetic and love to make sure those they spend time around understand them. Men try to deal with their emotions by lifting heavy weights in the gym or taking a few hours out to go drinking and partaking in sports whereas women really love to talk and think about their feelings and how to sort them out. If you do listen to your partner’s issues and take them on board without judgment or trying to fix them before she’s finished telling you what was wrong, you’ll find that your partner will respect you and your listening skills more. After she finishes telling you what she wants to tell you, she’ll probably less interested in more conversation and be more than willing to have sex. Overall, it is a win-win situation where you both benefit. She feels happy and fulfilled and so do you!
Women are often interested in entertainment, especially when they have been working hard at work or looking after the family, if they are mothers. This means that women really like their alone time, much like you like your gym time and going out with your friends. Studies have shown that a large portion of women prefer to watch a film or the TV over having sex, especially after a stressful day. Entertainment can easily be made more intimate. Get your partner to come and lie on your lap or curl up in bed whilst watching the film!
A continuation of the above, women want some time to do their own thing and sometimes this will come at the expense of sex and other activities. Making time for yourself is perfectly natural and enjoyable experience, as you need to have some time to rest. Me Time is nothing to be guilty of and don’t let your partner interrupt or ruin your time alone. If necessary, tell your partner to go out and see their friends or some other activity. In your time, try to make sure you get something out of it instead of just wasting a few hours by watching the TV. Paint a picture or write a little. Perhaps you could try and learn how to meditate?
Me Time comes in many forms and it doesn’t have to be alone. If your partner is an extroverted kind of woman, she might recharge her batteries by going to the coffee shops with some of her friends and discussing what has happened in the week. With how busy everyone is nowadays, these little bits of downtime in a woman’s life are getting more and more important. Woman also like traditional ways to relax, like having a bubble bath at home and going to spa days more than having sex. For women, the enjoyment is about experiencing the senses and losing themselves in the bliss of human sensation. Try offering to massage your partner and don’t simply massage her back for 5 minutes and jump in to having sex with her. Take your time, buy some massage oils and get some candles, go the full mile and you might be surprised by the results.
Cuddles and communication is always going to rate higher than sex in most women’s minds. A partner giving them a spontaneous and heartfelt cuddle is much more likely to make a woman happier in the long run than a quickie in the bedroom. Personal intimacy is high on most women’s lists of things they really like and spending a little time with your partner instead of badgering them for sex all the time is likely to improve your relationship. Not only is it easy and painless to give a little more attention to your partner when they are not expecting it, it can have some great roll over effects on things in the future. Giving up your attention to pay heed to what your partner wants is a major gesture and your significant other will appreciate the effort you are putting in.
Shopping and Receiving Gifts
Apparently, women like to shop for new clothes or get their hair cut at the beauty parlor. Who knew!? What most people don’t understand that it doesn’t really matter how expensive the things are that they buy to improve their happiness. Buying your partner a few little things often is easy enough to do and doesn’t take make forward planning and your partner will be super happy that you were thinking about her. Buying massive gifts and over blowing everything looks a little suspicious. Women love to give and receive gifts and if you can get in to a routine where you are giving little presents often you will see a definite upturn in your partner’s mood. Shopping is scientifically proven to elate most people and this is still true with women. Try taking your partner on a little shopping trip to a different city instead of staying in on the weekend.
Over time, especially if you are in very long term relationships, people can get bored of their sexual routine. This means instead of wanting to have sex all the time like newlyweds, sex becomes boring and monotonous. You can fix this by injecting a little excitement in to her life. Have a look at the kind of things you could do to improve and add variety to your sex life and you’ll soon see that sex is a higher priority for your partner than you think. Try buying her Fifty Shades of Grey and seeing if she enjoys the book enough to try something inside it. As usually, if you are planning on doing anything drastic and different in your sex life, warn her before doing so. If you are usually reserved in the bedroom and then suddenly you start acting weird and doing things that she hasn’t seen you do before, it can be very disarming and uncomfortable for both of you.
Whilst there are many things that women do enjoy over sex, don’t worry if there are some things that your partner feels like doing over you. (Excuse the pun) Just like occasionally you like to go golfing or fishing, it’s not the end of the world when you get set aside whilst your partner does other things. These things are necessary for your relationship to improve and continue and acting up because your girlfriend said no once or twice is just going to make you look bad in her eyes. What other things have we missed? Tell us some of your favorite things to do instead of having sex and we’ll put them in the article.